If you’re newly engaged and planning your timeline, there’s one question that almost always comes up early: “Should we do a first look?” And I get it — the decision feels big. It’s emotional. Traditional. Maybe a little confusing. You’ve likely heard strong opinions on both sides. But here’s the truth: there’s no right answer. Just the one that feels right for you. So let’s talk through the pros, the possible drawbacks, and how a first look might shape the rhythm of your day.
It’s simply a planned moment before the ceremony where you and your partner see each other for the first time — just the two of you (and me, quietly documenting it from a distance). It’s private, intentional, and usually full of happy tears, laughter, and that deep breath you’ve both been holding all morning.
You get more time together on your wedding day. Without a first look, the first time you see each other is at the altar — and then you’re swept into the schedule. A first look gives you a quiet moment to be present together before the whirlwind begins.
It can ease your nerves. So many couples say the moment they see each other, the jitters melt away. It’s like remembering, “Okay, this is the person I’m doing all of this with.” It’s grounding.
It frees up your timeline. With a first look, we can knock out couple portraits, bridal party photos, and sometimes even family formals before the ceremony. That means after you say “I do,” you get to enjoy more of cocktail hour (yes, even the charcuterie board you paid for).
It’s incredibly emotional. There’s this idea that seeing each other before the ceremony will somehow make the aisle moment less special — but I’ve found the opposite to be true. You get two emotional moments instead of one. I did a first look for my own wedding and my husband still cried at the altar!
That’s beautiful too. Saving the first look for the aisle can be powerful — especially if you’ve always dreamed of that moment. The anticipation. The music. Your loved ones standing as you walk toward each other. It’s cinematic and deeply meaningful.
Just keep in mind that it can tighten your timeline a bit. Without a first look, most of your portraits will happen after the ceremony, which may mean a longer cocktail hour or fewer couple photos depending on daylight. It’s totally doable, but requires a bit more planning.
My answer: whatever makes you feel most at peace. This is your story. If the thought of a private, tearful moment together feels right — let’s build that into your timeline. If you’re holding out for the classic aisle moment — we’ll make it just as meaningful.
Either way, I’ll guide you through it, help you build a timeline that works, and make sure the emotions, the reactions, the sacredness of it all — they’re captured in a way that feels honest and true to you.
Let’s make space for the moments that matter most to you, first look or not.
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