Fully Known + Truly Loved

Some truth for the one who feels unworthy.

For most of my life, I have struggled with the feeling of acceptance and being worthy and desired in the sight of others. This eventually developed a major fear of rejection and led to a people-pleasing mentality just because I desperately wanted to fit in and to be well liked. Can anyone else relate? Yes? Okay, great - please continue reading. A couple years ago, I came across Romans 9:25 and it spoke to me so deeply that I got it engraved on my forearm. It reads, “I will call those who were not my people, 'My people,' and I will call her who was unloved, 'My beloved.'" I stared at those words and just sobbed. The Lord began speaking so much love and truth into me, embedding into my heart and mind who I truly am and how HE sees me. He showed me that what He sees when He looks upon me is who I truly am, not what and who the world views me as. Still today, I am constantly being reminded that I am loved, I am chosen, I am worthy, I am enough, and I am sought after. And friend, so are you.

I think what it all comes down to is that we just want to be fully known for all that we are and still be loved back. Timothy Keller says it best, “when someone has seen you at your worst, and knows you with all your strengths and flaws, yet commits to you wholly, it is a consummate experience. To be loved but not known is comforting but superficial. To be known and not loved is our greatest fear. But to be fully known and truly loved is, well, a lot like being loved by God. It is what we need more than anything. It liberates us from pretense, humbles us out of our self-righteousness, and fortifies us for any difficulty life can throw at us.”

The first step to allowing others to fully know us is to stop identifying with the lies of the enemy, and identify with the TRUTH of who God says we are. He calls us worthy, beloved, valued, accepted, and chosen - so then we MUST be worthy, loved, valuable, accepted, and chosen. We cannot take away the names God gives us and just switch them out for what the enemy calls us. When we tell ourselves we are unworthy, unloved, and insignificant, we are bending our minds to think how the enemy thinks, not how God thinks.

This year, my prayer for every heart is that we rest in this great truth - we are fully known and truly loved by Him. I pray that as we begin to see ourselves through the eyes of our Maker - not the destroyer - we allow others the great opportunity of knowing us and loving us still. And even in our overthinking, even when we feel too small for the world, and even when we feel unloved - we won’t forget that we were carefully thought of and that we are the greatest thing to Him. His beloved.

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